Lindsay’s Facebook Etiquette List

I’ve been a member of Facebook for quite a while now.  I think I joined when it was still only open to folks with a university e-mail address. I spend a good amount of time on the site, both for fun and for my clients.  So as you can guess, I enjoy the site! And most of my friends know what an upbeat and positive person I am.  But despite me being a “glass is half full girl,” there are a few pieces of bad etiquette that drive me nuts that some folks do over and over.  Here are some examples:

-CONSTANT negativity

Some Facebook friends of mine have nothing positive to say EVER.  They hate their job.  They cannot get along with their mom.  Their kids are driving them nuts.  Life appears to suck for them.

While I understand that many of these people are simply looking for someone to reach out to, there has be a point when these people curb the negativity.  Facebook is not meant to be a soapbox to complain about aspects of your life that are not perfect. Why you ask?

Well, no matter how private you think your settings are, SOMEONE is reading your status update.  It does not matter if you have 5 friends or 500.  Your updates get broadcasted to them, whether you think they are paying attention or not.

Remember, just because someone did not comment on what you posted, does not mean they did not see it!  So if you complain about your fiancé not being the perfect man you want him to be, guess what?  He’ll find out what you posted.   And bitching about your job will very likely get back to SOMEONE at your company.

Oh and by the way, someone in this world has it worse than you.  Keep things in perspective folks!

-Bad grammar / spelling

We don’t all use Facebook as a way to network professionally, but if you want to be taken seriously, take a look at what you post before you post it!

A couple of common mistakes that drive me to want to break my laptop in half when I see them include:

-“To” vs. “too” – “Too” means ‘also’ – nothing else!

-“Your” vs. “You’re” – “your” implies possession, while “you’re” is a contraction for “you are.”

Get ‘em straight!  This is stuff most  5th graders understand.

-Cryptic Posts

This I will never understand.  Why would you post something like “Wow.  So much has happened in the last week.  Not sure I can handle it” and then not tell anyone specifics when they ask how they can help?  If you are not willing to share, don’t write something so obscure.  This type of ‘stream of consciousness’ post is unnecessary.

-Copying others’ ideas/posts

While imitation may be the highest form of flattery, don’t steal an idea from one of your Facebook friends without giving proper credit!  The quote “Do onto others as you would have them do onto you” is so apropos on Facebook.  Enough said.

-Speaking of ‘Do onto others’…not so nice comments

Don’t post something on someone’s wall if you would not want someone to post something similar on yours.  If you’ve had a bad day, perhaps it’s time to log off.  Debates can certainly be fun, but they are better in person.  Emotion and intent can be easily misread online.

Like mom always said, “If you have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

So there you have them – Lindsay’s no-no list.  This is not a complete list of Facebook blunders, but these are the things that get to me the most.  Have something that bugs you?  Leave a comment!


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